There’s no doubt you’ve heard of the G-spot: that mythical area that supposedly feels extra good for ladies when you hit it. If you haven’t managed to find it on your girl, don’t feel too bad: there are a lot of women who haven’t even found their own G-spots themselves. Why not? For starters, it can be hard to locate.
Personally, I’ve always been confused by the mythical G-spot. “The G-spot is an area that’s not inside the vagina but accessible through it,” O’Reilly explains. If you wanted to stimulate it, you’d reach into the vagina—not very deep—and curl your fingers up toward the wall of your stomach. “If you wait until you’re aroused to do this, the area feels more textured than the rest of the vaginal canal,”
I always heard this is where the G-spot is, but the tip about waiting to go looking until you’re aroused is new to me. O’Reilly recommends a dual stimulation vibrator like The Nova for exploring the G-spot.
Locating the G-spot takes teamwork and communication. According to sexologist Megan Stubbs, the best way to find the Promised Land is by working with your partner to try different methods for hitting it. “It is easiest to find the G-spot through an aroused partner,” says Stubbs. “If your partner is lying on her back, you can insert a finger into her vagina and locate the area. It is commonly found two inches into the vagina and on the anterior wall. Think of trying to touch her belly button from the inside.”
How do you know you’ve hit it? “You should feel a difference in the surrounding tissues. It could feel firmer or more textured than the rest of the vagina. And of course, ask for feedback from your partner, especially if she has had success in finding her own G-spot.” It’s also important to realize that the spot itself is felt through the vagina, but not located within it. “The G-spot is accessible through the upper wall of the vagina (toward the stomach),” explains Dr. O’Reilly. “It’s not inside the vagina, but is felt through the vagina. You can reach down and curl your fingers up against the stomach wall of the vagina (it’s not very deep) to find the G-spot. If you feel an area that is a bit swollen or ridge-like, you’ve likely found it.”